I once dated this guy that I had really great physical chemistry with. Unfortunately, the bedroom was the only place that the relationship worked – as a couple we were a complete disaster. A few months after we broke up, he got in touch under the premise of returning some of my things that I’d left at his house. We made plans to meet up for coffee a few days later. When coffee turned to dinner and wine, and my mind started to wander towards the memories of all the fantastic sex we used to have, I thought “What would it hurt to have one last fling?!” Apparently he had the same idea because once that wine was finished we ended up back at my place, in bed.

I’ve heard that break-up sex is the best kind of sex however, after this experience I’m not so sure. In the middle of sex, he blurts out:

“I’m still in love with my ex-girlfriend. I hope you know that we’ll never have a future together!”

(HUH?)

Why he decided to share this with me while he was still inside me (or at all) I’ll never understand. What I hoped would be a straight forward casual hook-up (that would hopefully include some multiple orgasms for me) instead turned into one of the most awkward moments in my sexual history.

Casual hook-ups are meant to be fun! That’s why people have casual sex in the first place. Nothing kills the vibe like stating the obvious (“this is casual!”) or making inappropriate confessions mid-sex. To keep things sexy, here are a few other things you should never say to someone while you’re having sex with them:

1. “After this I never want to see you again”

2. “Mommy!”

3. “Did you gain weight?”

4. “Score!” “Touch-down!” or any sports reference.

5. “You remind me of my ex”

6. “Hello?” (as you pick up your cell phone)

What do you think should never be uttered between the sheets?

A Few Things You Should Never Say in Bed is a post from: No Strings Dating

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Last month, we asked our readers to take a short survey all about sex positions. So many of you responded, played along and shared what sex positions you love, and which ones just don’t do it for you.  We’ve taken that information and created the following sex positions infographic, so you can see how your preferences line up with the rest…I have to say, some of these results are completely surprising! Check it out and let us know what you think!

Sex Positions Roulette Infographic is a post from: No Strings Dating

I like to think I’m a fairly confident woman.  I know how to to dress for my body type, have great style if I do say so myself (and I do!), and pride myself on always looking, well…hot.  But I’d be lying if I told you that I’m always so confident when I’m about to hook up with someone for the first, or second, or even tenth time.  Being confident when you’re clothed and being confident when you’re naked and vulnerable are two entirely different things, but along the way I’ve figured out a few tips and tricks on how to be confident in my birthday suit, or at least pretend that I am.

1. Tan, Exfoliate, Shave. This three step process is tedious at best and sometimes I want to skip it, but then I remember that I’m going to be naked with a hot man soon and get my act together.  Before you get all crazy, tanning doesn’t mean a tanning bed or frying yourself to a crisp in the sun, I prefer lotions that build a gradual tan without any damage.  And the tan thing, you might not need one, I just prefer to not look like casper the ghost when I’m trying to feel sexy.  Exfoliate…well, smooth skin is sexy skin, and shaving?  I don’t think I need to explain that.  Basically, you want to feel as pretty and um, “maintained” as possible.

2. Remember that he’s excited that you’re naked.  A good friend taught me this lesson…if a guy is about to get lucky, he’s not focused on if your stomach is completely flat or if you aren’t tan enough.  He’s like a little kid in a candy store and is just happy you are with him.  Remembering this takes a lot of the pressure off the situation for me…he’s not looking for my flaws, so why should I?

3. You don’t always have to be naked.  Lingerie, push up bras, his old t-shirt..there are plenty of ways to be sexy without being completely naked.  Heck, even body paint can work.  If you feel more comfortable being a bit covered up, that’s totally ok.  Just keep the sexy vibe going, not one that screams insecurity!

4. Repeat-”I’m sexy” over and over until you start to believe it!

How To Be Confident…Naked. is a post from: No Strings Dating

I can’t be the only person who thinks guys who are a little bit crazy are pretty hot.

Not like I’m going to stalk you and murder you crazy.  More like I don’t live by societies rules crazy.  Quite the distinction, don’t worry!

Guys who don’t play be the rules (in fact, they laugh at them), who don’t care at all what people think about them and who aren’t afraid to be who they are might be defined as a little bit crazy…but I just think they’re hot.

One of the things I find the least attractive in a guy is someone who cares too much what people think, it annoys me to no end.  I want the real deal, not some dude telling me what he thinks I want to hear or faking it.  This goes for in bed, too.  Guys who are a little bit crazy are more inclined to take risks and push the boundaries, and if you’re sleeping with a guy like this, you will most likely NEVER be bored. He’ll keep you on your toes because you’ll have NO idea what he’s going to do next…it’s exhilarating…and  a bit scary, if we’re being honest here.

Another reason why crazy guys are so appealing?  He’s down for whatever, whenever.  At a party and so turned on you can’t wait to get home?  No problem, he’ll find an empty room and rock your world.  He’s not afraid of getting caught, and a lack of fear or repercussions means he’s free to just have a good time and you get to go along for the ride!

Obviously though, this lack of fear means that guys like this probably aren’t best suited for long term, serious relationships. When a guy has no boundaries and is completely unpredictable, it’s next to impossible to trust him.  But casual dating on the other hand, absolutely!  The whole point is to have fun, be free, and have a good time…the crazier, the better.

Are you attracted to people who are a bit, um…crazy?

Why Crazy Guys Are Sexy is a post from: No Strings Dating

Some might think that you can’t really tell if a guy will be good in the sack or not until you’re actually in the middle of getting busy…but we don’t think that is the case at all.  Think about it-all day long, our body language and interpersonal skills show the world what kind of person we are…and what kind of lover we are.  Here are ten ways to tell if a guy will be great in bed…or not.

1. His online dating profile shows him smiling and having FUN.  Not somber, emo, or too artsy…guys who are good in bed know it’s all about having a good time.

2. He’s generous.  With his patience, time, money, whatever…if he’s a giver, he’ll be most likely to GIVE in other situations, if you know what we mean.

3. He’s confident.  Confidence is crucial in bed, nothing is sexier than a guy with the ehem, balls, to take risks and make sure that his woman is enjoying herself.

4. He’s powerful.  Ok, not like scary powerful, but a guy who is held in high esteem outside of the bedroom means that he’s proven himself time and time again, probably has excellent follow through skills, and possibly looks really hot in a suit.

5. He isn’t afraid to get dirty.  Guys who roll up their sleeves and get to work without any hesitation are the kind of guys I find desperately sexy.  I want a man with that kind of perseverance and attention to detail in my bed…right now!

6. He is thoughtful and caring.  These qualities might not scream “SEX” to you right away, but men who aren’t afraid of showing their emotions are more likely to know the difference and importance of both sex and sensuality.  Sometimes a girl needs a cuddle, what can I say…

7. He doesn’t brag about his skills.  Have you ever noticed that the guys who talk about how great they are, how big they are or how much he’ll turn you on never really measure up in reality?  A man who knows he’s fantastic in bed doesn’t need to talk about it-he’ll show you, and you won’t have any questions about it!

7 Signs He’ll Be Great In Bed is a post from: No Strings Dating

Have you ever found yourself in a situation like this-you are casually sleeping with someone because you don’t want a serious relationship and you’re happy with how things are going…until you discover that he is sleeping with other women at the same time? It’s a confusing place to be in, because while you’re fully aware that you didn’t want anything serious to begin with, you still can’t help but feel a bit upset that you’re not the only person he’s hooking up with.

When this happens, we tend to try to talk ourselves out of it by thinking things like, “stop being jealous” or “you don’t want a relationship anyway, he’s free to do what he wants.” No matter what excuses we try to make, we find ourselves pissed off and jealous.  Before you go getting too upset over it, it’s important to figure out where your feelings stem from.

The logical question to ask yourself is whether or not you do have feelings for the other person that go beyond the bedroom.  You really have to think about this though and make sure you aren’t confusing sexual intimacy with actual feelings of wanting a relationship.  Sometimes the sex is so good that we naturally assume that a relationship with them would be so good too…and it’s usually not the case.

If you’re jealous, hey, it’s ok.  Who wants to be rolling around naked with a guy who just did the same with someone else a day before?  Not I!  This is where communication comes in.  If he’s upfront about sleeping with more than one woman at a time, you have to make sure this is something you can handle emotionally.  If not, it doesn’t mean you are too needy or insecure, it just means that you aren’t looking for the same things.  If you are ok with it, you should have a brief discussion about his safe sex practices and make sure you’re extremely careful when you’re with him…it’s not fun, but it’s one hundred percent important.

The best thing about casual dating is that if one relationship doesn’t work out, another one is just around the corner…or a few clicks away online.

Help! “I Don’t Want Him To Sleep With Anybody Else.” is a post from: No Strings Dating

1. Make sure you’re emotionally stable. It’s totally normal to be sad about a breakup, but if you’re still in the beginning stages of grieving for the relationship, it’s probably best to wait until you stop crying before you go try to hook up with someone. You don’t want to be making out with someone and then burst into tears, do you? Give yourself time to get yourself together before you go looking for any action.

2. Keep it fun. At this point, you’re probably not ready for or looking for a deep intimate connection. This is all about hot, raw sex. Do things that you may not have felt comfortable doing with your ex, or choose a location that makes you feel sexy-a sleek hotel, or in a pool. Rebound sex is best when it isn’t trying to be long term relationship sex.

3. Don’t compare. When you’re fresh out of a break-up, everything reminds you of your ex and it’s easy to compare your current partner to them. You know-“His arms aren’t as muscular, she’s not as good of a kisser, her body isn’t as banging, or his penis isn’t as big…” It’s a dangerous trap. It’s all about enjoying the person you’re with and the best way to do that is to be present in the moment. So what if his arms aren’t as muscular? Focus on how he makes you feel, and that he’s there, right now, and his goal is to please you. That thought alone should make you forget your ex with no problem!

How To Have Sex On The Rebound is a post from: No Strings Dating

If you want a woman to fawn all over you in the sack, you’ve got to learn how to turn her on even when you aren’t rolling around naked.  Basically, you’ve got to make sure she likes you enough to even want to see you naked in the first place. Yes, women love the penis, but the trick is to make her love YOUR penis-or at least like it a lot.  And that starts with you.  Some guys forget this, and then wonder why nobody will sleep with them.  Here’s how to prevent becoming one of those guys.

Smell good. I know, how basic…but it’s SO important.  At some point, I’d love to never again have to write a blog post about the importance of personal hygiene and taking care of yourself, but unfortunately I keep meeting people who have not yet embraced the art of the shower.  Here’s the thing, guys-If she doesn’t want to be near you when you’re fully clothed, there’s no way she’ll want to be pressed up against you naked and sweaty.  It doesn’t matter what you look like, it’s what you do with it that counts.  Make her want more.  A sexy cologne always helps, too.

Be a bit unavailable.  Note-this doesn’t mean you should play games and be a jerk, it just means that it’s better to be a bit aloof then be the guy who calls her 12 times a day and just overall freaks her out.  Casual dating is all about mystery and attraction and a sense of novelty, so keep it fresh-don’t call her “just to talk” or fall into patterns that you might see in a traditional relationship.

Tease her(but don’t be mean).  Make fun of some silly thing she said, but make sure she knows that you’re joking.  When she tells you to stop but she’s laughing too, congratulations-it’s working-you’re turning her on.  Creating a bit of playful tension between the both of you ignites a different kind of spark-maybe she’ll be so mad that she’ll just have to pin you down in bed later.  Bad boy!

3 Ways To Turn a Woman On Without Touching Her is a post from: No Strings Dating

It’s time to put “Condom Reviewer” on your resume….no, seriously.  Have you applied to be a Great Sex tester with Lucky Bloke?  What could be more fun than getting sent condoms for FREE to try?  Safe sex like it’s your job…why not?! Of course we never need a reason to have sex, but this certainly helps! This seemed right up my alley, so I can’t wait to hear back on if I’ve been approved, and I wanted to make sure to share the opportunity with you!  There are still a few days left to apply, click here to go to the quick application on the Lucky Bloke website. Good luck guys! xx L

Mission-Great Sex! is a post from: No Strings Dating

I’m a huge fan of using sex toys to spice things up in the bedroom. Unfortunately though, I feel like there are a lot of misperceptions when it comes to sex toys. A lot of people assume that toys are only for lonely singles or long-time couples who are looking to get the sexy back in their relationship. However, what a lot of people don’t realize is that you don’t have to be bored or single to enjoy a little bit of playtime with sex toys. If you are dating casually, you can use toys to make your encounters even hotter.  All you need is a bit of an open mind and a willing playmate!

Here’s a few tips on how to introduce sex toys into your bedroom play to make your sexy time even sexier:

1)  Let him watch you: For the women out there who are looking to add some toy play to their bedroom activities, it’s possible that the guy you are with may be a bit apprehensive at first (or he may be totally game!). Either way, a good way to warm things up (literally) is by letting him watch you use your favorite toy. Most likely he’ll be so turned on watching you enjoy yourself that his inhibitions will melt away.

2) Tease her during foreplay: Use a vibrator to stimulate her during foreplay. Turn it on and off periodically to tease and drive her crazy! Some strategic vibrator play is guaranteed to work her into a frenzy before you rip each others clothes off.

3) Use a vibrator during oral sex: Another easy way to incorporate sex toys into the bedroom is by using a vibrator during oral sex. Men: use her favorite vibrator to stimulate her either externally or internally while you go down on her. Women: use a small vibrator to gently stimulate his balls or base of his shaft while you pleasure him orally. Either way, the combination of the gentle vibrations and oral stimulation is bound to be explosive!

4) Try a vibrating ring for him: These gadgets wrap tightly (but comfortably) around the base of his penis to give him a harder, longer lasting erection. The vibrations stimulate both of you when you move together!

5) Use a couples toy together: Couples toys like the We-Vibe or the Lelo Insignia Tiani  are all the rage right now. Wear them while having sex and enjoy the vibrations and added sensations together.

Because safe is sexy:  ALWAYS remember to properly clean your toys with antibacterial soap & water or an adult toy cleaner before and after use. 

5 Ways to Use Sex Toys in the Bedroom is a post from: No Strings Dating