Kink and BDSM dating
By Lottie Williams, Head of Content
Updated
Plenty of people on No Strings Dating are into more than vanilla, and plenty are curious. Kink is welcome here: say what you are into, find people who share it, and take it at your own pace.
Kink friendly, not kink only
No Strings Dating is a casual dating site first. Most members want straightforward fun; some want a dominant partner, a submissive one, or someone who shares a particular fetish. Nobody has to explain themselves, and nobody gets shown anything they did not choose to see.
That mix is the point. You meet people who are open-minded and honest about it, without the pressure or the performance of a kink-only site.
How it works on No Strings Dating
Your profile has a section called "What are you into?", with BDSM, light bondage, role play, toys, exhibitionist, voyeur and "fetish (ask me)" among the options, plus your role (dominant, submissive or switch) and how experienced you are. Pick what fits, and leave out anything you would rather say in person.
Those answers show on your profile and on the cards people browse, so members who share them find you, and members who do not can pass without anyone feeling awkward. Add a line in your own words for anything the options do not cover.
For more detail there is an optional Kink and fantasy section: your role in play, the dynamic you are after, the BDSM and fetishes you enjoy, clubs and events, and safety and aftercare. It only shows on your full profile, never on cards, so you can be specific without leading with it.
Find your corner
Each of these has its own page, with what to look for and how to start well.
- Femdom dating: dominant women, and the people who want to meet them.
- Submissive dating: subs looking for a dom, and doms looking for a sub.
- Sissy dating: respectful, judgement-free, and in your own words.
- Fetish dating: whatever your fetish, say it, or tick "fetish (ask me)" and talk about it in chat.
Safe, sane and agreed
Kink works on trust, and trust is built before anything happens. Talk about limits, hard noes and safe words before you meet, not during. Meet somewhere public first, use Safety check-in to tell a friend where you will be, and never agree to anything you cannot take back.
Consent can be withdrawn at any moment, by anyone, whatever was agreed. Every member has passed an age check, and you can close any chat with one tap.
Dating, not a marketplace
No Strings Dating is for adults meeting other adults because they both want to. It is not a place to sell or buy sessions, and advertising sexual services breaks our rules. Anyone offering paid domination, or asking you to pay for time, gets reported and removed.
Quick answers
Is No Strings Dating a BDSM site?
It is a casual dating site that is kink friendly. You can say you are into BDSM, choose a role and browse people who share it, alongside members who just want straightforward fun.
Will other members see my kinks?
Only what you choose to put on your profile. Every answer is optional, and you can add more in chat when you are ready.
I am new to kink. Is that OK?
Yes. Set your experience to "new to this" and people will know to take it slowly. Our beginner's guide is a good place to start.
Can I find a professional dominatrix here?
No. No Strings Dating is for dating, not paid sessions, and advertising sexual services breaks our rules.
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