Lottie Williams
Head of Content, No Strings Dating
Lottie writes No Strings Dating's guides and safety pages. She has written about dating for over eight years, and also edits We Love Dates.
When I'm not immersed in the world of dating and relationships, you'll likely find me exploring new restaurants in my local town. I'm a foodie at heart. I love discovering hidden gems and culinary delights. I also cherish spending quality time with my friends, whether we're trying out new eateries (Mexican is my fave) or simply enjoying each other's company over a glass of wine.
Written by Lottie
No strings attached dating: how to do it well
What no strings attached dating really means, how to find it without the games, how to stay safe, and what it costs on No Strings Dating.
ReadUK sex dating: a straightforward guide for adults
How sex dating works in the UK, how to choose a site you can trust, how to stay safe, and what it costs. For adults 21 and over.
ReadNSA dating sites: how to pick one that is worth your time
What to look for in an NSA dating site: real members, honest billing, safety features and fair prices. Plus how No Strings Dating measures up.
ReadCasual dating in the UK: what to expect and how to enjoy it
A guide to casual dating in the UK: setting expectations, first meets, etiquette, safety and costs on No Strings Dating.
ReadCasual sex dating: honest, safe and on your terms
How casual sex dating works, how to talk about what you want, consent and safety, and what it costs on No Strings Dating. Adults 21+ only.
ReadHook-up apps: what works, what is fake, and what to pay for
Hook-up apps vs hook-up sites: which actually work, how to spot fake profiles and bots, whether to pay, and how to protect your privacy.
ReadCasual dating profile: how to write one that gets replies
How to write a casual dating profile that gets replies: photos that work, keeping your privacy, a bio that says something, and lines to steal or avoid.
ReadOpening messages that get replies: a casual dating guide
Opening messages that actually get replies on casual dating sites: examples, what to avoid, moving from chat to a meet, and what to do when nobody answers.
ReadYour first hook-up: from first message to first meet
Planning your first hook-up: agreeing the basics, where to meet first, consent and checking in, protection, Safety check-in and the morning after.
ReadOne night stands: etiquette, safety and the morning after
One night stands done well: setting expectations, safety and consent, condoms and emergency contraception, the morning after and leaving on good terms.
ReadFriends with benefits: how to find one and keep it fun
What a friends with benefits arrangement really is, how to set ground rules, keep it light, and end it well when the time comes.
ReadHow to find a third: a guide for couples and singles
How couples find a third and how singles join a couple: respect, agreements, consent, the first meet and aftercare, done properly.
ReadSwinging and open relationships: a beginner's guide
Swinging, open relationships and ethical non-monogamy explained: the terms, agreements, jealousy, clubs or online, sexual health and etiquette.
ReadCasual dating over 40 and 50: a frank, friendly guide
Casual dating over 40 and 50: confidence, dating after divorce, changing bodies, sexual health, being clear about what you want, and simple tech tips.
ReadDiscreet dating: keeping your private life private
Discreet dating for single people who value privacy: protecting your photos, what shows on your statement, safe chatting and respecting others.
ReadCasual dating for women: get what you want, skip the rest
A frank guide to casual dating for women: saying what you want, filtering out time wasters, staying safe and enjoying it. Women who verify go free.
ReadSexual health and casual dating: testing, condoms and PrEP
Sexual health for casual daters: condoms, how often to test, free testing in your country, PrEP and PEP basics, and how to bring it up with a date.
ReadHow to sext safely: consent, privacy and the law
How to sext and share photos safely: consent first, keeping your face out, photo metadata, the law on cyberflashing, and what to do about threats.
ReadGay, bi and queer casual dating: a straightforward guide
Casual dating for gay, bi, bi-curious, pansexual, queer and non-binary people: saying what you want, first times, discretion, safety and sexual health.
ReadIs No Strings Dating legit? How to check any adult site
A practical checklist for any adult dating site: age checks, verification, moderation, honest billing and fake profiles. Then how we measure up.
ReadWhat does NSA mean in dating? A plain answer
NSA means no strings attached: casual sex or dating with no expectation of a relationship. What it covers, what it does not, and how to say you want it.
ReadRomance scams and sextortion: spot them, stop them
How to spot a romance scam or sextortion on a dating site, what to do if it happens to you, and where to report it in the UK and the US. Never pay.
ReadFriends with benefits rules that keep it fun
The friends with benefits rules people actually use: exclusivity, protection, texting, sleepovers, checking in and how to end it kindly.
ReadHow to cancel your No Strings Dating membership
Cancel your No Strings Dating plan in two taps from the Membership page. What happens next, when refunds apply, PayPal, and the 24-hour pass.
ReadBest hookup sites in the UK: an honest comparison
The UK's main hookup sites and apps compared fairly: who each suits, what it costs, how it checks ages, and where No Strings Dating fits.
ReadAdultFriendFinder alternatives in the UK
Looking for an AdultFriendFinder alternative? What AFF offers, why people look elsewhere, and the UK sites that suit casual dating, swinging and kink.
ReadA beginner's guide to BDSM: where to start
New to BDSM? What the letters mean, how to talk about it, how to start safely, and how to find a partner who wants to explore it too.
ReadWhat is femdom? A plain-English guide
What femdom (female dominance) means, the different forms it takes, how to explore it safely, and how to meet a dominant woman for dating.
ReadHow to find a dominant partner, safely
How to find a dom or a dominant woman near you for dating: where to look, how to tell real from fake, the red flags, and how to meet safely.
ReadSafe words and negotiation: how to agree before you play
How to choose a safe word, use the traffic-light system, negotiate limits and look after each other afterwards. The basics every kinky date should know.
ReadWriting a BDSM dating profile that works
How to write a kink or BDSM dating profile: what to say, what to leave for chat, photos that work, and the mistakes that make people scroll past.
ReadHow to tell a date you're into kink
How and when to tell a date about your kink or fetish: the right moment, the words to use, and how to handle a yes, a maybe or a no.
ReadBDSM-friendly hotels: how to choose and book one
What to look for in a BDSM-friendly or themed hotel, how to book discreetly, what to ask and how to be a good guest on a kinky night away.
ReadDogging: the law, the risks and safer ways to explore
What dogging means, why it can be a crime in the UK and elsewhere, the real risks, and legal, safer ways to explore an exhibitionist or voyeur fantasy.
ReadSafety Centre
How No Strings Dating keeps casual dating safe: age checks, photo moderation, verification, scam warnings, safe meeting, consent and sexual health.
ReadAbout No Strings Dating
No Strings Dating has helped adults find casual dating without the games since 2009. Who we are, what we stand for, and how we keep it real.
ReadHow No Strings Dating works
Intention tags, Free tonight, quick openers and Safety check-in: how No Strings Dating gets you from joining to meeting, with no games.
ReadWomen go free on No Strings Dating
Women who verify get full No Strings Dating membership free: unlimited messaging, five Devil Likes a day and every feature, for as long as you stay active.
ReadKink and BDSM dating
Kink-friendly casual dating: say what you are into, find people who share it and meet safely. BDSM, femdom, submissive, fetish and more, 21+ only.
ReadFemdom dating: meet a dominant woman
Femdom dating for adults: dominant women and the people who want to meet them. Find a mistress near you, start well and stay safe. No paid sessions.
ReadSubmissive dating: subs and doms, matched honestly
Submissive dating for adults: subs looking for a dom, and doms looking for a sub. Say your role, find people who fit, and meet safely on No Strings Dating.
ReadSissy dating: respectful and judgement free
Sissy dating for adults: meet people who share or welcome your kink, without judgement. How to say it on your profile, start well and stay safe.
ReadFetish dating: say what you are into
Fetish dating for adults: find people who share your fetish or are curious about it. How to bring it up, set limits and meet safely on No Strings Dating.
ReadHook-ups: tonight, nearby and this weekend
Find a hook-up tonight, nearby or this weekend on No Strings Dating. Say you are free, see who else is, and meet safely. For adults 21 and over.
ReadHook up tonight: Free tonight, explained
Want to hook up tonight? Switch on Free tonight, see who nearby is free too, and meet safely. How it works, what to say and how to keep it simple.
ReadLocal hook-ups: meet people near you
Local hook-ups near you: browse by distance, see who is free tonight and meet safely. How to set your radius, plus a page for every big city we cover.
ReadWeekend hook-ups: plan a Friday worth having
Weekend hook-ups for adults: say you are free this weekend, find people who are too, and plan something worth looking forward to. Safely, on your terms.
ReadSwingers and couples dating
Swingers and couples dating for adults: threesomes, couples meeting couples, hotwife fantasies and open relationships, with everyone knowing and agreeing.
ReadThreesome dating: couples and thirds, honestly
Threesome dating for adults: couples looking for a third and singles happy to join one. Say it on your profile, find each other and start well.
ReadCouples dating: meet singles and other couples
Couples dating for adults: couples meeting singles or other couples for fun, with both partners keen. How to set up, find each other and meet well.
ReadHotwife dating: the fantasy, done with care
Hotwife and cuckold dating for adults: couples where she meets someone else with his full blessing. How to say it, find the right person and do it well.
ReadOpen relationship dating: on your own terms
Open relationship dating for adults: partners who each date others with full agreement. How to say it on your profile, be honest and meet the right people.
ReadLGBTQ+ casual dating: gay, lesbian, bi and trans
LGBTQ+ casual dating for adults: gay, lesbian, bi, pan, trans and non-binary people welcome. Say who you are, find people who fit, and meet safely.
ReadGay dating: hook-ups and casual fun for men
Gay and bi men's casual dating: hook-ups, regulars and discreet fun with men nearby. Say your tribe, set your intentions and meet safely.
ReadLesbian dating: casual fun for women who like women
Lesbian and bi women's casual dating: meet women nearby for hook-ups, regular fun or flirting. Free for verified women, no couples you did not ask for.
ReadBisexual dating: bi, bi-curious and pansexual
Bisexual and pansexual casual dating: meet men, women and everyone in between, taken at face value. For bi, bi-curious and pan adults.
ReadTrans dating: respectful casual dating for everyone
Trans and non-binary casual dating: meet people who see you as you are, and date trans people respectfully. Say as much as you like, when you like.
ReadMature dating: casual fun for grown-ups
Mature casual dating for adults: cougar dating, over 40s, over 50s and confident older women. Set your age range, say what you want and meet safely.
ReadCougar dating: older women, younger men
Cougar dating for adults: confident older women and the younger men who want to meet them. How to find each other, start well and keep it equal.
ReadMILF dating: respect for confident women
MILF dating, the respectful way: meet confident, experienced women who know what they want. How to find each other, start well and keep it classy.
ReadOver 40 dating: casual fun, no games
Casual dating over 40: know what you want, say it plainly and meet people who want the same. Hook-ups and regular fun, fitted round a full life.
ReadOver 50 dating: casual dating, your way
Casual dating over 50: company, chemistry and fun without the rush. Getting started again, setting your age range and meeting safely, simply explained.
ReadCurvy and BBW dating: body-positive casual fun
Curvy, BBW and BHM casual dating for adults: meet people who fancy you as you are. Body-positive, honest and safe, with no punchlines.
ReadBBW dating: meet people who love your curves
BBW casual dating: big beautiful women and the people who fancy them. Free for verified women. Body-positive, respectful and safe.
ReadBHM dating: big handsome men and their admirers
BHM casual dating: big handsome men, bears and cubs, and the women and men who fancy them. Body-positive, honest and safe on No Strings Dating.
ReadOnline flirting, sexting and video dating
Flirty chat, sexting and video dating for adults who want fun without meeting, or before they do. Say what you want, find people who match, and stay safe.
ReadFind a sexting partner: flirt by text, safely
Find a sexting partner who wants the same as you. Consent first, keeping your photos private, and what to do if anyone turns nasty. For adults 21 and over.
ReadVideo dating: call first, flirt on camera
Video dating for adults: a quick call before you meet, or flirty video chats for their own sake. What to agree first and how to stay safe on camera.
ReadTravel hook-ups: holidays and work trips
Casual dating when you travel: holiday flings and business trip hook-ups. Update your location, switch on Free tonight in local time, meet safely abroad.
ReadHoliday flings: meet someone while you are away
Holiday flings for adults: how to meet someone while you are away, plan ahead, keep it light and say goodbye well, with safety tips wherever you go.
ReadBusiness trip hook-ups: a free evening, well spent
Business trip hook-ups for adults: meeting someone on a work trip, hotel visitor rules, keeping it discreet and staying safe in an unfamiliar city.
ReadAffair dating: frank, discreet, no judgement
Affair and married dating on No Strings Dating: say where you stand, protect your privacy and be honest with the people you meet. Adults 21 and over.
ReadMarried dating: an honest guide for adults
Married dating, frankly: what to think about first, how to be upfront with the people you meet, and how No Strings Dating handles it. Adults only.
ReadDiscreet affairs: privacy, done properly
Discreet affair dating: protecting your own privacy, respecting the other person's, and keeping chats on the site. Frank advice for adults, no judgement.
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