Find a sexting partner: flirt by text, safely
By Lottie Williams, Head of Content
Updated · First published
Good sexting is a conversation, not a broadcast. It works best with someone who wants it as much as you do, at the same pace, and who you trust with what you share.
Finding a sexting partner
The easiest sexting partner to find is one who has already said they want it. Pick "Flirty chat and sexting" in what you are up for, then browse people who have picked it too. Nobody has to guess, and nobody gets a surprise.
Read their profile before you message. Something you have in common makes a far better opener than a line you sent to ten other people, and it shows you are interested in them, not just the chat.
Consent first, every time
Ask before you send, and wait for a yes. That goes for the first photo and the tenth. "Want to see?" takes two seconds and is genuinely flirty; an unasked-for photo is a quick route to being blocked, and in some places it is a crime.
Let it build. Match their pace, check in if things go quiet, and take "not tonight" with good grace. Either of you can stop at any point, whatever was said earlier.
Keeping it private
A little care now saves a lot of worry later. This page is about finding someone; our in-depth guide on how to sext safely covers consent, photo location data and the law properly.
- Keep your face, tattoos and anything recognisable out of intimate photos.
- Check the background: post, photos on the wall and windows give more away than you think.
- Keep it on the site at first. Private photos stay hidden until you share them from a chat, so you need not hand over your number.
- Never share someone else's photos or messages. Ever.
How it works on No Strings Dating
Say it on your profile. Under "What are you up for?" you can pick "Flirty chat and sexting" and "Online fun (video / cam)", alongside or instead of meeting up. Set "Can you host?" to "Online only" if you do not want to meet at all, and "How do you like to meet?" to "Video call first" if you want to see someone before you do.
Those answers mean the people who message you already know what you are after. Photos beyond your main one can be kept private and shared from a chat with the people you choose, and you can stop sharing with a tap.
Staying safe online
Online fun is only fun while you stay in control of what you share. Keep your face and anything identifying out of intimate photos, share with people you trust, and never send anything you would hate to see again. Our guide to sexting safely covers photo location data and what the law says.
If anyone threatens to share your photos unless you pay or send more, that is sextortion, and it is not your fault. Do not pay: it rarely stops it. Keep the evidence, block them, and report them to the police and to us from their profile or chat. Adults can use StopNCII.org to help stop intimate images being shared on partner platforms.
Free fun, not paid shows
No Strings Dating is a dating site, not a cam site. Nobody here pays for a show, a private chat or a photo, and nobody sells them. Anyone asking for money, gifts, tips or a subscription elsewhere gets reported and removed.
Quick answers
How do I find someone to sext with?
Pick "Flirty chat and sexting" in what you are up for and browse people who have picked it too. Read their profile and open with something you share.
How do I start sexting without it being awkward?
Flirt first and let it build. Ask what they enjoy, and ask before you send anything. Matching their pace does most of the work.
Is it illegal to send nudes?
Between consenting adults who both want them, generally no. Sending explicit images nobody asked for, or sharing someone's images without consent, is a crime in the UK and many other countries. Our sexting safely guide has the detail.
Someone I sexted is asking for money. What now?
Do not pay. Keep screenshots, block them, report them to us and the police, and use StopNCII.org to help stop the images spreading.
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