Discreet affairs: privacy, done properly
By Lottie Williams, Head of Content
Updated · First published
Discretion matters to everyone in an affair, and usually to both people equally. This page is about protecting your own information and respecting theirs, on the site and when you meet. It is not about cover stories, and never about keeping the person you meet in the dark.
What the site does for you
Some privacy is there before you lift a finger.
- Profiles never appear on public pages or in search engines, and only signed-in members see them.
- Your main photo is always shown, but any other photo can be private until you share it from a chat, and you can stop sharing with a tap.
- Payments show on your statement under a neutral company name.
- Block anyone you know, and they will no longer see you.
- Set Discretion to "Discretion essential", and it shows on the cards people browse, so they know from the start.
Your profile
Use a first name or nickname, describe your work in general terms, and choose a main photo that is clearly you but not instantly recognisable across a room. Keep anything more personal in private photos. Our in-depth guide to discreet dating has more on photos, settings and statements, and it all applies here.
Keep the chat on the site
Your phone number links to your name, your messaging apps and often your social media. Keeping chats on the site protects you until you trust someone, and anyone who pushes hard to move off it early is a red flag, and often a scammer. Someone who threatens to tell your partner unless you pay is committing a crime: do not pay, report them, and contact the police.
Their privacy matters as much as yours
The person you meet may have as much to lose as you do. Never screenshot or share their photos or messages, never try to find their surname or workplace, and never mention them to anyone you both know. If it ends, let it end cleanly.
How it works on No Strings Dating
Your profile has a Relationship setup answer, with "Partner doesn't know" among the options. It only shows on your full profile, never on cards, so people who read you properly know where you stand. "Discreet affair" is one of the things you can say you are up for, and the Discretion answer lets you choose "Discretion appreciated" or "Discretion essential".
Privacy is built in: profiles never appear on public pages or in search engines, any photo but your main one can be private until you share it, payments show under a neutral company name, and you can block anyone you know so they no longer see you.
The line we hold
No Strings Dating is a casual dating site, not an affair site. We do not judge why you are here, and we will not cheer you on either. What we ask is simple: be honest with the person you meet about your situation. They are taking a risk too, and they deserve to choose it knowingly.
Our privacy advice is about protecting your own information. We will never help anyone deceive the person they are meeting, or read, track or monitor anyone else. It is dating, not a marketplace: nobody pays or is paid for company or sex. Every member is over 18 and has passed an age check, and whatever happens, happens in private.
The honest part
Affairs carry real emotional risk: for you, for your partner and for the person you meet. Feelings do not always stay where you put them, and secrets have a way of getting out. Go in with your eyes open, and be kind to everyone involved, yourself included.
Sexual health matters more when someone at home is affected without having a say. Use condoms, and test regularly. In the UK, NHS sexual health clinics are free and confidential, and staff will not tell anyone what you discuss without your permission, including your GP. Our Safety Centre lists free services in every country we serve.
Quick answers
How discreet is No Strings Dating?
Profiles never appear on public pages or in search engines, photos can stay private, payments show under a neutral company name, and you can block anyone you know.
Can I keep my photos private?
Your main photo is always shown, but you can make any other photo private and share it person by person from a chat.
Someone is threatening to tell my partner unless I pay. What should I do?
Do not pay. Stop replying, keep the messages, report them to us and contact the police. Blackmail is a crime.
Should I tell the person I meet that I am attached?
Yes. Set your Relationship setup honestly and say so in chat. Discretion is about privacy, not about keeping them in the dark.
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