Lesbian dating: casual fun for women who like women
By Lottie Williams, Head of Content
Updated
Women looking for women on casual sites tend to say the same thing: too many men, too many couples, not enough women who meant it. Here, you choose exactly who you see.
Women, and only the people you chose
Join as a woman into women and women are who you see when you browse. If you are bi, choose everyone, and use your profile to say what you are after this time round.
Your intention tags say what you are up for and, just as usefully, what you are not. A one-off, something regular, flirty chat or casual dating: pick what fits, and the messages that miss the point get far fewer.
About couples looking for a third
Some couples are looking for a woman to join them, and some women love that. If you are one of them, "Happy to join a couple" and Unicorn sit in the optional Kink and fantasy section, and our guide to finding a third is written for both sides.
If you are not, say so with a "not up for" tag, and close any chat that ignores it. One tap, no explanations needed.
Free for women who verify
Women who verify their ID get full membership free, for as long as they stay active: unlimited messaging, seeing who liked you and five Devil Likes a day. Verified profiles carry a red tick, which tells other women you are real before they say a word. Here is how it works.
Femme, butch, or neither
Femme and Butch are both in "Your tribe", along with Geek, Leather and the rest. Tick what fits, or nothing at all, and let your profile line say the rest in your own words.
Sexual health is for you too
Infections can pass between women, through oral sex, touching or shared toys, and some cause no symptoms. Anyone who says you do not need testing is wrong. In the UK, NHS sexual health testing is free and confidential, and our sexual health guide covers the rest.
How it works on No Strings Dating
When you join, you say "I'm a" man or woman, and whether you are into women, men or everyone. That decides who you see when you browse, so it is the one answer worth getting right first. You can change it later under "Who you're looking for".
After that, the detail is yours to add. "Also identify as" offers Bi-curious, Pansexual, Heteroflexible, Queer and Non-binary. "Your tribe" includes Bear, Cub, Otter, Wolf, Twink, Jock, Daddy, Pup, Leather, Muscle, Geek, Femme, Butch, Trans and Discreet / straight-acting. Position and Safer sex are there too, and they only ever show on your full profile, never on the cards people browse.
Every answer is optional. When you and someone else share one, it shows up as something you have in common, which makes the first message easy.
Safety: outing threats and sextortion
The risks LGBTQ+ people face online are not always the ones on the usual checklist. Two matter most: someone threatening to out you, and someone threatening to share intimate photos unless you pay. Both are blackmail, both break our rules, and neither is your fault.
If it happens: stop replying, do not pay, keep screenshots, then report and block. Paying rarely ends it; blackmailers usually come back for more. Keep chats on the site until you trust someone, share private photos only with people you have met, and use Safety check-in when you meet.
- United Kingdom: Galop, the LGBT+ anti-abuse charity, gives free, confidential support, including with blackmail, on 0800 999 5428. Adults facing sextortion can also get advice from the Revenge Porn Helpline. Call 999 in an emergency, or 101 to report to the police.
- Everywhere else: report to your local police, and look for a local LGBTQ+ support service. Our Safety Centre lists free help in every country we serve.
Quick answers
Is lesbian dating free on No Strings Dating?
Women who verify their ID get full membership free, for as long as they stay active. Joining and browsing are free for everyone.
Will I see men?
Not if you join as a woman into women: that is who you browse. If anyone you did not want gets in touch, close the chat with one tap.
How do I avoid couples looking for a third?
Add it as something you are not up for. If someone ignores that, close the chat and report them if they push.
Can I be bi and use this?
Of course. Choose everyone, tick Bi-curious or say you are bi in your own words, and set your tags for what you want now.
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